Note: This is Lesson 2 from my the Inside Scoop on Self-Employment series. For Lesson 1 just click here.
Sit down and open up the computer. It’s time to pick up where you left off. You open the file and finally get to start working. A couple minutes later, the pitter-patter of little feet fill the hall way.
You sit down on the couch for the first time today. You sit in silence savoring the fact no one is climbing on you or wanting a sippy cup or snack from you… then you start to hear some crying over the monitor.
This is how it goes when you are a young parent building a dream.
Plan all you want, but when the kids need mommy or daddy, all bets are off.
Don’t get me wrong, being a parent is absolutely awesome, but it is unpredictable and draining too.
Some days (and depending on the season, even many days) you will simply run out of hours available to work on your dream.
Many times the best you can do is work with your spouse and intentionally support each other.
Then you simply do what you can.
Your dream will quickly turn into a nightmare if you are both not on the same page and working together. But how can you do this?
Here are a few ideas for how you can fit dream building into an unpredictable parenting schedule:
- Set aside some time every other Saturday morning to give your spouse some dream time.
- Do a babysit swap with another couple.
- Work on your dream when the kids are asleep and stop when they get up.
- Instead of watching TV, work on your dream.
- If mentally drained, focus on easier repetitive work and automate as much as possible.
Do what you can and realize this could be a particular season where your time is very limited.
Enjoy this time together and don’t neglect your family or you have already failed.
Many times it is best to intentionally move slowly so you can focus on what matters most to you.
You’re not a robot, so don’t pretend you are one. Don’t compare yourself to others who work more hours than you do. Good for them. This isn’t a race.
It is NOT a badge of honor to say, “I work 80 hours a week.”
You already know this, but the odds of divorce and the amount of disconnection you have with your family increases with each hour you work.
Do not allow yourself to become a workaholic. Your family–especially your kids–want your time and attention.
Give yourself some credit–very few have the courage to build a dream–let alone work on it with young kids.
You are doing much, much more than you realize. Don’t believe me? Think about some of the things you’ve accomplished over the past year.
Will you list a few of these things in the comments? I’m calling a brag table. Go ahead–it’s okay. Let’s celebrate our accomplishments together.